Monday, October 20, 2008
A WALK TO REMEMBER (Quotes)

Dean: If there is a greater power, why is it he can't get you a new sweater?
Jamie: Because, he's too busy looking for your brain.

Jamie: You know what I figured out today?
Landon: What?
Jamie: Maybe God has a bigger plan for me than I had for myself. Like this journey never ends. Like you were sent to me because I'm sick. To help me through all this. You're my angel.

Jamie: [to Landon] You're my angel.

Landon: I might kiss you.
Jamie: I might be bad at it.
Landon: That's not possible.

Jamie: You’re acting like a crazy person, what's going on?
Landon: Right now, you're straddling the state line.
Jamie: OK...
Landon: You're in two places at once.

Jamie: You have to promise you won't fall in love with me.
Landon: That's not a problem.

Jamie: Are you trying to seduce me?
Landon: Why? Are you seducible?

Jamie: Please don't pretend like you know me, ok?
Landon: But I do, I do. We've had all the same classes in the same school since kindergarten. Why you're Jamie Sullivan. You sit at lunch table 7. Which isn't exactly the reject table, but is definitely in self exile territory. You have exactly one sweater. You like to look at your feet when you walk. Oh, oh, and yeah, for fun, you like to tutor on weekends and hang out with the cool kids from "Stars and Planets." Now how does that sound?
Jamie: Thoroughly predictable, nothing I haven't heard before.
Landon: You don't care what people think about you?
Jamie: No.

Jamie: [crying, runs into Landon]
Landon: [holds her] This is about me, okay? This is not you. Wait here.
Jamie: [nods]

Landon: What are you doing here?
Jamie: I could ask you the same question.
Landon: Do you normally walk alone in cemeteries at night?
Jamie: Maybe.

Landon: Jamie has faith in me. She makes me want to be different, better.

Landon: All I know is... you're beautiful.

Jamie: How can you see places like this... and have moments like this and not believe?
Landon: You're lucky to be so sure.
Jamie: It's like the wind. I can't... see it, but I feel it.

Landon: Our love is like the wind... I can’t see it, but I sure can feel it.

Mr. Carter: Landon, don't walk away.
Landon: You taught me how.

Landon: [to Jamie] You, uh, feelin' Christian?

Landon: Are you scared?
Jamie: To death...
[Landon looks upset]
Jamie: Lighten up.
Landon: It's not funny.
Jamie: I'm scared of not being with you.
Landon: Oh baby, that will never happen... I'll be here.

Landon: I'm sorry she never got her miracle.
Reverend Sullivan: She did. It was you.

Jamie: OK, so you don't care about classes or graduating, but you like school because you're popular and you'll never be on top again.
Landon: That's thoroughly predictable.
Jamie: Your act only works on an audience.

Jamie: Without suffering there would be no compassion.
Landon: Yeah, well tell that to those who suffer.

Jamie: So, would it kill you to try?
Landon: Yup, and I'm too young to die.

Jamie: Make yourself at home.
Landon: Yeah!
[whisper]
Landon: It's not likely.

Jamie: People can see.
Landon: And that would ruin your reputation how?

Landon: Listen, Jamie, I was hoping we could run lines together?
Jamie: Okay, but just not so anybody knows, right?
Landon: Well I just figured we could surprise everyone with how good I get.
Jamie: Like we could be secret friends.
Landon: Exactly, exactly it's like you're reading my mind.
Jamie: Great umm... maybe you could read mine.
[she gives him a cold glare and turns away]
Landon: Jamie, Jamie I can't just be your friend.
Jamie: Landon, look, I thought I saw something in you, something good, but I was very wrong.

Landon: Jamie, I'm trying here, OK? Maybe... maybe I miss spending time with you. Maybe you inspire me.
Jamie: Sounds like bull.
Landon: Which part?
Jamie: All of it.
Landon: Well it's not!
Jamie: Prove it.

Jamie: You don't know the first thing about being someone's friend.
Landon: I don't want to just be your friend.
Jamie: You don't know what you want.
Landon: Neither do you. Maybe you're just too scared that someone might actually want to be with you.
Jamie: And why would that scare me?
Landon: Because then you wouldn't be able to hide behind your books, or your frickin' telescope, or your faith. No, no, you know the real reason why you're scared? It's cause you wanna be with me too.

Landon: Can you find this star, right here?
Jamie: Sure. So why am I looking for this star?
Landon: Because I had it named for you. See? It's official. It's from the International Star Registry.
Jamie: This is wonderful... I love you.

Landon: Hey. How are you feeling?
Jamie: I'm ok, how are you?
Landon: Pretty good.
Jamie: I have something for you.
Landon: You do?
Jamie: Uh hmm... Don't worry it's not a bible. It was my mother's. It's got quotes from all her favorite books, and quotes by famous people. Her thoughts. Come on.
Landon: Okay, let's check it out. Okay...”What is a friend? It's a single soul dwelling in two bodies." -Aristotle.
Jamie: Uh uh, right here.
Landon: Okay. "Find out who you are, and do it on purpose." That's Dolly Parton.
Jamie: I always thought she was smart.
Landon: "Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful."

Landon: Jamie... I love you.
[long pause]
Landon: Now would be the time to say something.
Jamie: I told you not to fall in love with me.

Eric: Hey man, tell them maybe do, like, West Side Story, you know, get that nice big booty lookin' girl from Selena, ya know, "Maria, Maria!"

[last lines]
Landon: [voiceover] Jamie saved my life. She taught me everything. About life, hope and the long journey ahead. I'll always miss her. But our love is like the wind. I can't see it, but I can feel it.

Landon: Do you love me?
[she nods]
Landon: Will you do something for me, then?
Jamie: [smiles] Anything.
Landon: Will you marry me?
[Jamie smiles and kisses him]

Eric: [reading lines passionately for Landon] Nothing's coincidence, baby. You know you're the only one who can make me sing.
[jokingly pretending to hump Mrs. Garber]
Eric: Oh yeah Miss Garber, oh, you gonna put Eric in all your plays!
[as Miss Garber]
Eric: Oh Eric, I'm gonna put you in all my plays!

Jamie: What do you want Carter? I've known you for years and you've never been the first one to come up and say "hello."

Jamie: I'm sick.
Landon: I'll take you home. You'll be be...
Jamie: No. Landon! I'm sick. I have Leukemia.
Landon: No. You're 18. You - you're perfect.
Jamie: No. I found out two years ago and I've stopped responding to treatments.
Landon: So why didn't you tell me?
Jamie: The doctor said I should go on and live life normally as best I could. I - I didn't want anybody to be weird around me.
Landon: Including me?
Jamie: Especially you!
[Jamie looks down]
Jamie: [Landon gets upset]
Jamie: Ya know, I was getting along with everything fine. I accepted it, and then you happened! I do not need a reason to be angry with God.
[Jamie runs away]

[at the hospital]
Reverend Sullivan: Do you remember when you were about five or six and you said you hated gravity? And you wanted to jump off the roof and fly?
Jamie: I was so angry at you for making me come down.
Reverend Sullivan: Honey, if I kept you too close it's because I wanted to keep you longer. You know, when I lost your mother, I was afraid that my heart would never open again. Jamie, I couldn't look at you for days.

Clay Gephardt: You know what? I actually thought I wanted to be your friend. And now I have no idea why. No idea.
Landon: I made that jump once. Thought I was a bad ass. I remember actually saying that I meant to belly-flop.
Clay Gephardt: Did it hurt?
Landon: Like hell.
Clay Gephardt: Good.

Eric: Talk to me man.
Landon: About what?
Eric: About you, about Jamie.
Landon: What's there to talk about? She's the best person I've ever known.

Landon: What'd you tell your father?
Jamie: The truth. I just left you out of it.

[first lines]
Dean: Is he here yet?

Eric: It's all good cause were gonna get club Landon and Club Eric jumping up in here. Oh, what do we got here ?
[Landon turns the CD player on]
Eric: Whoa, okay, okay, so your not really feeling my hip-hop, but what the hell is this?
Landon: Jamie lent it to me.
Eric: Now she's got you listening to her people music?
Landon: Okay... her people?
Eric: Yeah. Her... uh, bible-hugging, crucifix-wearing, honk-if-you-love-Jesus-people.
Landon: She's not like that.

Landon: Saturday. No school.

Eric: Well, you know you got Belinda thinking that little lip action between you and Jamie was real.
[landon looks nervous while he still works]
Eric: Whats with you, man? It's like you don't even have time for your real friends anymore.
Landon: I dont know man, I'm just tired of doing the same old shit everyday.
Eric: This girl is changing you and you don't even know it.
Landon: Hah. Did Belinda say that too?
Eric: No, I did.

Ms. Garber: Oh Landon! You were marvelous!
Landon: Thank you.
[walks away]

Reverend Sullivan: "Do not be deceived. God is not mocked." Hmmm.
[Landon walks into the Church as Reverend Sullivan is practicing his sermon]
Reverend Sullivan: "Whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap...” Can I help you?
Landon: Uh, yes, sir. I'd like to ask your daughter to dinner on Saturday night.
Reverend Sullivan: That's not possible.
Landon: Well... with all due respect, sir, I ask you to reconsider.
Reverend Sullivan: With all due respect, Mr. Carter, I made my decision. You can, uh, exit the way you entered.
Landon: Listen, I'm sorry I haven't treated Jamie the way I should've. She deserves more than that. I'm just asking you for the same thing that you teach us every day in Church. And that's faith.
Reverend Sullivan: [Exhales deeply]

Landon: That is one scary
[turns around and sees Jamie's father]
Landon: Jesus!
Reverend Sullivan: No, Jamie's father.

Jamie: [after she and Landon keep switching the radio station] Forty-two.
Landon: "Forty-two", what do you-what do you mean "forty-two"?
Jamie: Forty-two is "Befriend somebody I don't like". It's a to-do list I have.
Landon: What, like getting a new personality?
Jamie: Spend a year in the Peace Corps, make a medical discovery...
Landon: That's ambitious.
Jamie: ...Be in two places at once, get a tattoo.
Landon: What's number one?
Jamie: I'd tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.

Landon: So, what's your number one?
Jamie: To marry in the church my mother grew up. It's where my parents were married.

Eric: It is true; I've seen the man bust a move and it just ain't pretty.

Ms. Garber: Mr. Carter, are you trying to be bad at this?
Landon: Nah, it just comes naturally.
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Wednesday, October 1, 2008
How to Tame a Free Spirit

How to Tame a Free Spirit

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Have you met someone who's fiercely independent, and yearn for their devotion? The key to taming a wild soul is to make him or her feel like they can be freer with you than with anybody else. Here's how to have that free spirit eating out of your hand, willingly and happily.

Steps

  1. Get your priorities straight. What do you want most out of the relationship? Think about what your top three expectations are: Commitment? Respect? Honesty? Affection? Companionship? Passion? Security? Stability? A free spirit is not the kind to twist and turn to meet your every need. You'll have to make it simple for them by coming to an understanding of what you want most out of a relationship and asking for that, and nothing else.
  2. Don't sweat the small stuff. Things like punctuality, precautions, and any other kind of minor limit or inhibition will be of no concern to an independent mind. They like to flow through life, following their whims - and this often makes them extremely creative and fascinating individuals, which is what probably attracted you to them in the first place. By imposing dams, as little as they may be, you could very well suffocate the qualities that make this person desirable to you, if you don't manage to scare them off first.
  3. Choose your battles wisely. Don't nitpick. If they're 15 minutes late and you end up missing a movie, roll with the punches and see the next one. But if they're 45 minutes late to pick you up in the middle of the night in a bad neighborhood, that's serious. In general, if it doesn't directly threaten the priorities you established in Step 1, then let it go and just enjoy the ride.
  4. Avoid setting rules. Restrictions are like chains, and will send this wild horse running towards the horizon. Instead of saying, "Don't ever cheat on me," say "You'd be a complete idiot to risk losing such an awesome person like me just so you could get a little extra on the side."
  5. Get to know the person inside out. Study their tendencies, their quirks, their deepest desires, and their worst fears. Always be accepting and open-minded. Knowledge is power. The better you know this person, the less you'll feel the need to control them. Moreover, he or she will sense this and feel like you're the only person who truly knows them and thus, the only person they can be their uninhibited selves around. To a free spirit, this is the jackpot.
  6. Give them the benefit of the doubt. A person who values his or her independence will truly test your ability to trust. You need to determine early on whether or not you trust this person, and then trust them completely. Sure, you might get burned, but you also might capture the heart of a person that no one else could touch.
  7. Get in touch with your own free spirit. Don't sit at home, wondering what he or she is doing, or when they're going to call. Get in your car and take a road trip. Visit an old friend. Watch a new movie. Taste a different kind of food. Your free spirit will respect you for it, and feel a sense of kinship with you when you both get home and recount your adventures.
  8. Appreciate their free-spiritedness. The number one condition that all free spirits demand of their relationships is acceptance. If you don't accept the free spirit, the free spirit takes that as an assault on his/her freedom. If you accept them exactly as they are and place no expectations/conditions on them, then they can trust you. And only in trust can a relationship develop. Just remember that independence is something to be appreciated, not just tolerated, you'll be giving a free spirit exactly the kind of nourishment that it needs.

Tips

  • If you want something, let it go, and if it's meant to be, he or she will return out of their own free choosing, not because they feel obligated. Sometimes a free spirit needs to prove to itself that it can still fly before it settles down in one place.
  • Don't try to change him or her. This is a classic mistake, in any kind of relationship, but especially when you're dealing with a rugged individual.
  • Give them time to themselves and to their projects. Independent individuals tend to have a burning need to progress alone - sometimes you have to let them go down a path by themselves and just let them know you'll be there for them when they get to the end.

Warnings

  • Just because you're inviting a free spirit into your life doesn't mean you need to do dangerous things like practice unsafe sex, ride a motorcycle in inclement weather, etc. Not every free spirit is trustworthy, and some just simply cannot be tamed.
  • If you seriously think you can "tame" a free spirit, think again. If you could, you would be destroying the very thing that attracted you in the first place. What you want to do is have the free spirit close to you. Think of it as changing your location (bringing yourself out into the wild) than theirs (bringing them indoors).
  • If all else fails, try to enjoy the free spirit from afar. Support their activities, and communicate that you appreciate their decisions. Sometimes it is hard to be a free spirit, and occasionally some encouragement feels good, even if they are incredibly independent.




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Fun Butterfly Facts

We have gathered some strange butterfly facts to share with you. Amaze your friends! Enjoy!

  1. Butterflies range in size from a tiny 1/8 inch to a huge almost 12 inches.
  2. Butterflies can see red, green, and yellow.
  3. Some people say that when the black bands on the Woolybear caterpillar are wide, a cold winter is coming.
  4. The top butterfly flight speed is 12 miles per hour. Some moths can fly 25 miles per hour!
  5. Monarch butterflies journey from the Great Lakes to the Gulf of Mexico, a distance of about 2,000 miles, and return to the north again in the spring.
  6. Butterflies cannot fly if their body temperature is less than 86 degrees.
  7. Representations of butterflies are seen in Egyptian frescoes at Thebes, which are 3,500 years old.
  8. Antarctica is the only continent on which no Lepidoptera have been found.
  9. There are about 24,000 species of butterflies. The moths are even more numerous: about 140,000 species of them were counted all over the world.
  10. The Brimstone butterfly (Gonepterix rhamni) has the longest lifetime of the adult butterflies: 9-10 months.
  11. Some Case Moth caterpillars (Psychidae) build a case around themselves that they always carry with them. It is made of silk and pieces of plants or soil.
  12. The caterpillars of some Snout Moths (Pyralididae) live in or on water-plants.
  13. The females of some moth species lack wings, all they can do to move is crawl.
  14. The Morgan's Sphinx Moth from Madagascar has a proboscis (tube mouth) that is 12 to 14 inches long to get the nectar from the bottom of a 12 inch deep orchid discovered by Charles Darwin.
  15. Some moths never eat anything as adults because they don't have mouths. They must live on the energy they stored as caterpillars.
  16. Many butterflies can taste with their feet to find out whether the leaf they sit on is good to lay eggs on to be their caterpillars' food or not.
  17. There are more types of insects in one tropical rain forest tree than there are in the entire state of Vermont.
  18. In 1958 Entomologist W.G. Bruce published a list of Arthropod references in the Bible. The most frequently named bugs from the Bible are: Locust: 24, Moth: 11, Grasshopper: 10, Scorpion: 10, Caterpillar: 9, and Bee: 4.
  19. People eat insects – called "Entomophagy"(people eating bugs) – it has been practiced for centuries throughout Africa, Australia, Asia, the Middle East, and North, Central and South America. Why? Because many bugs are both protein-rich and good sources of vitamins, minerals and fats.
  20. YOU can eat bugs! Try the "Eat-A-Bug Cookbook" by David George Gordon , 10 Speed Press. Don’t want to cook them yourself? Go to HotLix for all sorts of insect goodies! My favorites are "Cricket-lickit’s" – a flavored sucker with a real edible cricket inside.
  21. Many insects can carry 50 times their own body weight. This would be like an adult person lifting two heavy cars full of people.
  22. There are over a million described species of insects. Some people estimate there are actually between 15 and 30 million species.
  23. Most insects are beneficial to people because they eat other insects, pollinate crops, are food for other animals, make products we use (like honey and silk) or have medical uses.
  24. Butterflies and insects have their skeletons on the outside of their bodies, called the exoskeleton. This protects the insect and keeps water inside their bodies so they don’t dry out.
http://www.thebutterflysite.com/facts.shtml
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Friday, September 19, 2008
Magkano ang Halaga ng Pangarap mo?

Magkano ang Halaga ng Pangarap mo?

Narinig mo na ba to:

“Libre lang ang mangarap.”

Pag mukhang walang direksyon ang buhay mo, sasabihin nila, “wala ka man lang kaambi-ambisyon!”

Pag andami-dami mong guston gawin, sasabihin naman nila, “ambisyoso ka!”

Ayos ba?

May mga nagtatagumpay sa buhay, may sumisikat at nalalaos, may gumaganda ang buhay pansamantala ngunit pagkatapos ay bumabalik sa dati at kung minsan ay mas masahol pa.

Tignan mo yung kapitbahay mong nag Saudi o kaya’y pumunta sa Dubai at Italy o kaya si ate sa Hongkong. Wag na tayo lumayo…. Musta kaya ang buhay sa call center sa bandang Libis o Ortigas? O yung teller ng banko sa Makati. Ano ba ang kasalukuyang sinasalamin ng buhay nila. Kaginhawaan? Kasaganahan? O kahirapan pa din.

Marahil marami ang nangarap sa buhay. Kahit siguro yung kaibigan mong ewan, marahil ay may pangarap din ngunit libre nga ba ito? At kung libre, bakit madami pa din ang di nakakaabot sa kanilang mga pangarap. Kasya ba ang take home pay mo? Musta ang credit card mo? Max up na yung pangatlo!?

Palagay ko hindi libre ang mangarap. Tulad na lang ng kalayaan, subukan mong isalin sa ingles ang salitang ito – freedom. Libre nga ba ito? Kung libre ito, bakit may Ninoy, bakit may Evilio Javier, at madami pang nagbubuwis ng buhay… tsk.tsk.. nakakatuwa ang paggamit ng ating mga salita.

May kakilala ako nag Saudi. Nakapag pundar ng bahay, umabot sa mahigit isang milyon ang nahawakang pera. Tuloy tuloy na sana pero nalulong sa droga… nawala lahat ang kabuhayan. Nangarap ba siya? Marahil… pero somewhere along the way, nawala ang focus niya.

Tapos si Manong Ed, istokwa, bata pa tumira na sa palengke. Sabi sa kanila, “black sheep” ng pamilya. Di na inintindi ng magulang. Ang batang palaboy-laboy sa palengke ng Surigao, kamuntik naging sundalo, ka muntik din nakatapos ng engineering at nag-mekaniko. Nasaan na siya ngayon? Nag-abroad na, tangay ang limang kaibigan at kapamilya. Saan kaya niya hinugot ang kanyang lakas upang makaalis sa palengkeng naging kanlungan niya habang siya ay nag-iisa?

Listen, yung nanay ng friend ko at age 44, nag-nursing. San na siya ngayon? Nag to-tour na. She has all the money to do just that. Ano! matanda ka na? Eto isa pa. Yung lola ng friend ko, nag retire at age 65. Bumalik sa skul, kumuha ng Law. Sabi ng mga apo at anak, “Matanda na kayo. Pahinga na lang kayo sa bahay.” Sagot niya, “Ubingak pay! (bata pa ako).” Nakinig ba siya? Hindi! Ayun pumasa sa bar, lawyer na ang lola! Whew!

Ano, hihirit ka pa?

Minsan sa isang seminar, lumapit sa akin ang isang clerk, may konting luha at lungkot sa kanyang mga mata. Sabi niya, “Labing pitong taon na akong clerk, wala pang nangyari sa buhay ko!” Ako ay namangha at nabagabag. Anlalim noon a! I got scared. Sabi ko, “Anong ginawa mo? Madami namang seminar na puedeng puntahan, libro na puedeng basahin o kaya panibagong skills na puedeng pag-aralan.” Ang kanyang tugon ay nakakalungkot. Sabi niya, “Busy ako sa work e!” She was practically imprisoned sa lamesa niya for 17 years! Kaya ang mas malalim na tanong, “Are we busy with the right things? Does it make us grow? Does it make us a better person? May mas magandang pupuntahan ba ang ginagawa natin sa susunod na mga taon?”

Ang karayom, pag tinusok sa yo ay masakit. Mararamdaman mo ito. Kaya ang karayom itinali ko sa isang steel rod at itinusok sa dibdib niya, at sinabing, “Tignan mo yang isang officemate mo.. Dati clerk din siya, ngayon Systems Administrator na. Pareho kayo ng simula diba?”

The desire to dream starts from the heart, it is a daily decision to be where you want to be. It is owning it. ‘Tol, wag ka umasa sa mana mo o kaya sa gobyerno o sa Boss mo. At the end of the day, commodity ka lang. Ang buhay kasi is buy and sell kaya dapat alamin mo ang tunay mong halaga baka na syo-shortchange ka! Bilhin ka ng boss mo sa halagang 10,000p tapos ibebenta ka sa halagang 100,000p. Yan ang harap harapang prostitusyon!

Ask yourself. Masaya ka ba where you are? Ok ka na ba diyan? kumusta lineage ng pamilya mo? Is that what you want to see in your generation? Sabi ng isang guard sa akin noon. Junie, security guard na lolo ko. Security guard din tatay ko, kaya security guard na din ako…. Sabi ko, “Ayaw mong maging chief of police?”…. But really, kung yung nagdaang henerasyon sa pamilya mo e puno ng kakulangan, would you even dream and act to change it? O you resign to it and say, “eto ang kapalaran ko.”

Simulan mo. Minsan masarap maging discontent. Wag mong isiping bata ka pa o matanda ka na o may kakulangan ka. Ala akong pinag-aralan e. mahirap lang kami. Wala kaming pera. O nagpapadala ka sa mga taong nagsasabing, “Sama-sama na lang tayo dito!” This one really scares me! o nagsasabing, “ambisyoso ka!” ‘Tol, at the end of the day, di naman sila ang magpapakain ng pamilya mo e. Try mong utangan sila. It’ not about lacking in resources, it is about resourcefulness.

I started losing friends when I realize may mga taong excess baggage sa buhay natin. Minsan may nakilala ako, sobrang nega. Sala sa init sala sa lamig. Laging may problemang dala. Minsan kasama ko sabi niya, “Bat di mo ako kinakausap?” Sagot ko naman, “There is nothing good to say!” Lagi akong nagtatanong, “Is this person going to make a good influence sa buhay ko?” Syempre, yan din ang lagi kong tanong sa sarili ko.

Choose your friends. An eagle can not fly if he is dressed like a turkey…. and you can’t go to the same school as the duck’s school.

Tignan mo if they have grown in the past few years kasi may tinatawag na Law of Association. Are they excited about life or they see it as drudgery? Are you in survival mode or is your life accelerating? Pareho ba max up credit card niyo? Do you hear more complaints than movements? Ang bakasyon ba mas pinagpla-planuhan kaysa sa buhay? Is happy hour better than growing together? There must be what they call the next level kasi ang buhay hindi dress rehearsal. Kaya if you see yourself in the bar every weekend with your friends, you better run away from them!

Start within you. Change the way you see things. Look at your life as a new canvass. Choose the colors! Wag mo nang balikan yung nakaraan. Di mo na mababago yun. Yung ngayon at bukas, may magagawa ka pa. Dapat may internal change muna. You have to start with your character. Be a better person everyday. Lahat ng gagawin mo should have an impact hindi lang sa buhay mo kundi sa mga taong nasa paligid mo. Everyday decision yan.

Pag align na yung character mo, pag tama yang puso mo, everything will come into focus. Mas magaan ang buhay mo. Then yung sinasabi nilang, the whole universe will collide to give you what you deserve will definitely happen. Remember, the universe respond to deserved, not need, not want.

Finally, stretch yourself and your life like a rubber band. You will never know what your potentials are until you stretch yourself hard enough it’s gonna break you. Don’t let anyone live your life and drive you where they please. Like a boss with a stick and a carrot dangling at the other end. The only person who can tell you na hanggang diyan ka lang is yourself so the competition is not between you and the other person. It’s the devil inside you that doesn’t want you to grow.

Make a decision to change wherever you are. Don’t wait for someday. Someday, someday, someday… remove that from your vocabulary and say NOW IS THE TIME TO CHANGE!

Sama sama tayong mangarap. Mahal ang mangarap pero halika, I’ll walk with you. Ano, kelan tayo magsisimula?

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Tuesday, August 26, 2008
How to Know if You're in Love

How to find out if you are in love.

Steps

  1. Have you and this guy/girl been friends for a while?
  2. If yes, then good! You know each other well, and can start a relationship!
  3. Do you think about him/her a lot?
  4. If yes, then good! This means you like them. Love, is a different thing... keep moving down the page to check!
  5. When you are sad, is your greatest desire for him/her to hold you, and tell you everything will be ok? If so, you have moved onto a close relationship!
  6. Do you giggle a lot in their presence? If so you have a serious crush?
  7. Does this person like you too?
  8. Do you live,breath and eat thinking about this person?


Tips

  • if this person doesn't like you, I am sorry, you can't force anybody to like you, but these might work....
  • Talk to them a lot, and bat your eyelashes, and be a little flirty, but not too obvious, then move on, and go farther, by becoming very flirty. If they don't respond, tone it down a little bit!
  • Be nice looking, but don't overdo it.


Warnings

  • Don't be a stalker or she/he will think you're strange.
  • Watch what you say and don't let the giggles go out of control!


Things You'll Need

  • Be nice, and make sure, not to overpower, and take things slow. Be careful!


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How to Control Your Temper
Yes, there are always those moments when you feel like slaughtering someone or yelling until you've lost your voice for weeks... but you have to take control over yourself, so here are some tips!

Steps

  1. Remember that the reward for patience is happiness.
  2. Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.Take deep breaths.
  3. Get away from situations where your anger might get the better of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it. It's okay to use your words or body language to tell somebody you will not tolerate how they are treating you, as long as you respond to them in a calm and matter of fact manner, without being overtly hurtful or trying to embarrass them as they have you. It's never okay to hit somebody for making fun.
  4. Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.
  5. Be considerate of others, and ultimately, yourself. The way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings. If you have to rebuke someone for doing something wrong, you can always do it calmly, in a private place. This method is always better for everyone in the long run.
  6. If you are angry and you are standing, sit down, if you are sitting then lie down.
  7. Remember, 5 seconds stand between you and logic, count to 5, and remember that logic always beats anger.


Tips

  • When you feel like you are about to blow up, count 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 and then decide how you will act. This doctor-recommended method has definitely helped, I can vouch for that.
  • When you are angry then your heart beats faster, you feel uneasy and you want to express it somehow. Stay calm and take deep breaths, close your eyes for a while and you will find that the situation is under your control and slowly you will master your anger.

Warnings

  • Although it may seem hard in the beginning, you will get it as long as you put yourself into it. No one wakes up one day as a changed person, and you can't learn a new skill in one day...
  • ... and yes, learning to control your temper is definitely a skill because not everyone can do it, and it's a great thing to master, good for you and for others.


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Tuesday, July 1, 2008
How to Enjoy Being Single

There is always a grieving period when you have lost a spouse or someone you thought was a "soul mate". The loss may be as a result of death, divorce or a break up. So how do you survive after the grieving?

Steps

  1. Say yes to every opportunity to learn, grow and meet new people.
  2. Be grateful for what you have. After the grieving period, focus on what you do have for example, good health and a good support system of family and friends.
  3. Don't be afraid to invest yourself in deep relationships with other people. You don't have to be dating somebody to have a intimate and fulfilling relationship with them. Don't be afraid to open up and be vulnerable sometimes.
  4. Decide for yourself if there are aspects of your life or your personality that you would like to change and do it. You are your best evaluator. You don't need to listen to those people who tell you that you are single because you are too "picky", too fat,or too old to meet someone else.
  5. Ignore the toxic people in your life. It is easy to recognize them. Their negative words of fear and discouragement sap your energy.
  6. Think about all the things you can do because you are now single. You could take off and go travelling without discussing it with somebody else. You can watch TV all day without being called lazy. You don't actually have to do these things but, sometimes, just the knowledge that you could is enough to make you feel great.
  7. Invest in yourself. Save some money and get a professional massage. Get a manicure and pedicure .... anything that nurtures your body and lifts your spirit.


Tips

  • Look in your local newspaper for opportunities to join a service club or volunteer with an organization. Look in your church newsletter for church related activities if that makes you happy. Check the continuing education program at your local community college to see if there is a class that you would like to attend.
  • Now that you are single, you will discover that there are some ignorant friends, family and neighbors who think that being single means you are desperate and stupid. Don't be offended. Just drop them from your close circle.
  • Host a Singles Party. Ask single friends, male and female, to invite at least one other single friend.

Warnings

  • You can learn new things from anyone you could possibly meet, but be careful; choose people who teach you in a positive way rather than a negative one. Some lessons are better learned through observation, rather than experience. You are vulnerable but not stupid. Be wary of persons who need to borrow your money.
  • Consult a therapist or your doctor if you are depressed. You can also build yourself up by pushing yourself - take classes at the community college that target your learning needs of self in some way (psychology, art, self-defense, women's studies, for ex.) That way if you aren't comfortable seeing a therapist yet, you can effectively learn about yourself without isolating yourself at the same time. This can also be done by attending religious services that you can trust. Self help books, (Dr. Phil has a way of writing his books so that they can seem one-on-one with you), reading the Bible, or the topics on Wiki How-To on personal growth can truly help you if you take the advice. This time of being single is also an excellent opportunity to reach out & become more family oriented. After all, this may be a time you need them most! Family isn't defined as, or limited to, only those to whom you are blood-related.
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