Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (even yourself), here is a general guide to loving. Love is the continual act of unconditionally putting the needs of others before your own.

1. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.
3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
5. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.

1. It does not make you a bad person to desire someone else's love, even if they do not love you. However, to truly love someone, you must let them be free. It is selfish to blame them for your feelings.
2. There are many types of love, for example: a mother-son love is different from a best friend's love, which is different from a romantic love. Don't be ashamed to tell anyone that you love your friends as much as you love anyone else in your life.
3. You have to find someone that will suit you, someone you feel comfortable with - not just someone to make love to.
4. As a word, love can be found worldwide and is often used to describe compassion and/or emotional attachment. Accepting those you love for who they are is part of love. You also need to learn to accept yourself before you can accept another. If you cannot love your self, how are you to love another?
5. Love genuinely. Do not compare your feelings now to what your feelings were when you were with another mate. At times, we can experience rejection.
6. Realize that love is a feeling that wikihow can describe and attempt to assist, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love.
7. Do things that make the other person feel good, but do not smother them with gifts and attention.
8. Consider some tips about what people in love do.

• People in love are sensitive to each other's needs, and endeavor to meet them even when they do not feel like doing it.
• Men and women may be equal in value but different by nature. People who truly are in love give their mates "space" to develop their potential and find their fulfillment in life.
• Love does not brag. People who are truly in love refrain from rehearsing their good traits just to show off. Bragging in a relationship often is really defensiveness.
• People who are truly in love do not insist that their way is best and demand that their mates give in to them.
• People who are truly in love are considerate of each others feelings and courteous in their actions toward one another. Sadly sarcasm is a way of life for some couples. They ridicule each other, belittle each other and trade jibes with a fury. They may say it is all in fun, but it leaves wounds that will someday become festering sores.
• People who are truly in love look out for their mates' best interests as much as their own. Those in love should be concerned not only about their own individual interests, but about the interests of the other as well.
• People who truly love control their anger when the other displeases them. We are all human, and all humans feel anger periodically, but we only express our anger in destructive ways when we counting on someone else to meet our needs.
• People who truly love each other do not take pleasure in their mates' disappointments or failures.
• People who truly love each other treat their mates with absolute trust. Some husbands and wives torment themselves with groundless suspicions. If you look for trouble you will find it every time.
• People who truly love look forward to their relationship growing more meaningful and precious. They have hope. Which is an attitude that happily anticipates the good. It isn't being blind and denies there are problems, but it does look beyond the problems. People who truly love each other do not allow their problems to rob them of their happiness.

WARNINGS

• You must love yourself before you can love another.
• There is always the risk of getting hurt, but that's part of letting yourself fully love and trust some one. Being hurt could be long-lasting and could hurt more than anything in the world.
• Realize what you have while you have it, and care for the person you trust.
• If something comes to an end, try to let go rather than holding on; it's for the best.
• The idea of love is fueled by childhood fantasies. The love shown in movies, as obtainable as it may be, is rare to say the least.
• You just may find your soul-mate sooner than you want to.
• If you feel any doubt of love your partner has for you, it is probably true. when you give and receive love 100%, you will have no doubt in your heart.
• Don't ask for love - you should receive love because your partner wants to give you love - not because you want it from your partner.
• Do not force love - it will come in good time, it will come.

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STEPS

1. The dictionary defines love in the ways we use the word. For example love is:

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  A strong positive emotion of. affection or pleasure. e.g. "His love for his work." or "I love cooking."
• Any object of warm affection or devotion or liking; "the theater was her first love". I love French food.
• Beloved: a beloved person; used as terms of endearment
• A deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction. e.g. "She was his first love" or "She loves her husband."
• A score of zero in tennis or squash; "It was 40 love!"
• Sexual love: sexual intercourse between two people. e.g. "They made love." "He hadn't had any love in months"

2. Love is characterized by the desire to do anything for that person no matter what. And you're willing to work out your problems together. And you just can't hardly breathe when you're around them and even though you may see them all the time or hardly ever it's as if you get that rush of what you felt when you got your first kiss #The Greeks defined love in four categories:

• AGAPE love is unconditional love. It is love by "CHOICE". A good example is "GOD LOVES US"
• PHI LEO love is the love of "ATTRACTION" guided by our likes or our healthy or unhealthy needs and desires.
• STORGE is a physical show of "AFFECTION" the need for physical touch.
• EROS is the physical "SEXUAL" desire, intercourse.

3. Define love, what does it mean to you? Be bold and write down the feelings and thoughts you have about love.

4. Be aware of moments you feel love towards anyone or anything.

5. Consider your motives, what are you getting from the situation.

6. Think about whether you'd feel the same way if the other person's looks were to change.

7. Capture that feeling with metaphors, poetry or songs.

8. Define love like a psychologist: love can be viewed triangularly. There are three key components: passion, intimacy, and commitment.

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  Passion underlies physical desire, sexual behavior, and arousal. This is the physical side.
• Intimacy is the emotional aspect: closeness, connectedness, and warmth of friendship.
• Commitment is the decision-making part "CHOICE" of love; are couples willing to work it out?

9. Understand that love may start as harmless flirting and smiles and winks and maybe even kissing, but it is usually infatuation at this point, a more curious approach by one or both parties. While time is usually spent looking to discover more about this intriguing person, much time will be spent pondering the many possibilities of what could happen, or the consequences that may become of a certain action, or on the other hand the good that may come of it.

10. Understand that most often to the person in love there will be little left of interest in the real world, food will taste bland, concentrating will have become a serious mental struggle and even fun pastimes may seem worthless, as pacing and walking or even simply sitting or lying while thinking about the person seems a more sensible thing to do.

• This type of behavior can lead to serious disturbances at work and at home, especially if the person feeling love is already an item with somebody else with whom they may have shared these feelings at some time in the past.

11. Note that although love has never been scientifically proven to exist, it is thought; quite accurately as of yet that one can only be in love with one person or thing at a time. The part of the human being that is reserved for sharing with another (which some may call the soul, or the heart) is used up while dedicating itself to that one source, and that it is impossible to feel the overwhelming feeling twice at once.

• Although similar, love is thought not to be like pain which has definite locations; it is thought that it can move around, although usually it will reside in the lower stomach or the bottom of the throat, with sensitive areas like the temples and the legs and joints feeling stressed and weak. The mouth is often dry and the eyes seem strained, and this is all usually given the diagnosis of love sickness; or in some cases where love isn't present; influenza.

12. Understand that time does seem to be the only healer in the case of love. The full connection of two loving parties (mutually) could lead to a stronger relationship, and developments such as procreation and marriage; but in the case of a single party or the rejection of the first party by the second, or even in the case of a secret love, being in love will usually only fade after the interest is out of sight and out of mind, or gives full closure to the pursuer.

13. Realize that in some cases (especially in literature) love will last forever. No matter how much time passes by, or what obstacles become present in the path to true and pure love, love will endure. This may be far fetched from reality, but many find it to be a preferable way to think.

• Although this may be a much more joyous belief to have of love, there are also those situations where love does fail. This can be easily said to have been due to false love of mistaken identity between persons (as lovers are star crossed and are meant to find each other). Either way, the difference between feeling love and not feeling it is a distinct one, and cannot be mistaken. It is a true sickness that is present and can be more crippling than the flu, depression and many other illnesses combined.
• Love can cause war; in the cases of love of religion and the love of money; war can cause people to steal and murder, it can lead to suicide and shatter marriage and family life, it can spread disease and give birth to evil; but love is eternal and cannot be eliminated, it is what makes people human. "I think therefore I am" may also be translated as "I love therefore I am". Being able to think give us the ability to choose our partners not because of their breed or simple survival of the fittest, but in order for us to develop as human beings, and to share our love and spread it on to new generations, so that while love lasts eternally, our mark upon humanity lasts forever through our children and children's children; we have made our mark upon humanity; our genetic code will continue to be passed on and develop for ever more. This possibility is a gift, not a dedication, we have to choose as we were born with conscientiousness, not animal instinct.
• Desire is the want of more and is unfillable, not to be confused with Love which is joy and contentment.

TIPS

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   There are many combinations, all of which form some kind of love. Is there passion and friendship but very little commitment? This is defined as "passionate love." Are you committed but feel no passion or friendship? This is called "empty love." What most people ultimately desire, is "TRUE LOVE" the total package: passion, intimacy, friendship and commitment in one healthy relationship. It's the most fulfilling love. It is unconditional, and in my opinion the only "CHOICE".
2. For inspiration, read Elizabeth Barrett Browning's famous poem, "How Do I Love Thee?"
3. For additional inspiration, you might want to consider this Shakespeare quotation: "Love is not love/Which alters when it alteration finds" (Sonnet 116)

WARNINGS

1. Just because you feel love doesn't mean the other person does!
2. People are capable of falling in and out of love so if your "true love" turns out to be abusive or makes you cry more than smile, end it and find a healthy person to love.
3. Remember there are levels of love, and true love is a "CHOICE" and just because someone says they love you doesn't mean they love you. Their actions will tell.
4. Love is not a feeling. couples who have been married for a considerable amount of time, at least 10 years, can tell you that true love is not a feeling. Feelings tend to come and go; true love shouldn't.
5. Love can take over your whole life if you are not careful. Let it not take you over, but become a part of who you are. When you think about the person you love it should make you want to be a better person, for them.

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1. Love yourself. If you're not happy with who you are then don't expect others will be. Analyze yourself and change what you don't like. Positive self-esteem is key.
2. Know your role. An important part of any relationship is making both partners aware that they have a crucial and indispensable role to play.
3. Be emotionally grounded. Life with you should not be a roller coaster ride. Men generally like women who are stable, and vice versa. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not impossible. If you find yourself referred to as a "drama queen" in more than one instance, seek help and guidance in relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
4. Men are often slower to commit because they are very careful about getting to know a woman before they commit to her. They date first before becoming a boyfriend, they stay a boyfriend first before getting engaged. This is often hard for women, but there is a lesson to be learned from it. They make sure (as women should) that they feel compatible on all levels. This process must happen at its own pace. Pressuring a man to make a decision before he feels he knows you will inevitably lead him to doubt. Don't talk about marriage until either he brings it up or it's been about a year.
5. Keep dating fun, as it should be. If dating goes well, and your interactions are positive, he'll want you to be his girlfriend. If he builds experience with you and sees you as a person he wants to be with forever, he will get more serious about his future and work, start considering longer-term goals such as buying a home, and begin to discuss the future more and more. Only once he has made a decision about you and feels prepared and mature enough to propose will he do so.
6. Show confidence. Be sure of yourself, and ready to tackle whatever is before you. Many men love confident women. How can a man not feel privileged when he earns the esteem of a woman who values herself so highly?
7. Show endearment with class. A certain look. A scratch on the back. A soft kiss. Nothing "clingy" or inappropriate.
8. Appreciate a man's strengths. And tell him so, even if he's already prideful. Then support him when he is at his best, and avoid nagging or berating him when he is at his worst.
9. Be fun. This sounds basic, but it's a critical factor in any relationship. Have a sense of humor. Don’t be uptight or negative.
10. Overflow with joy. Women who are glad to be alive and are enjoying every minute of it may be irrepressibly attractive to men.
11. Glow. If the warmth of your heart is written all over your face, and your feelings for your guy show in the sparkle in your eyes, you will melt him. This is what removes all doubt - it's the important "silver bullet".
12. Practice humility. A humble person is not someone who downplays herself; it is a person who controls her ego and shows a genuine interest in others.
13. Date. It may not be obvious, but you actually have to go out on dates with a man and commit to a relationship before he will propose. The term "date" in modern culture is vague and sometimes redefined as something more than it is. Simply converse with a man and get to know more about each others' lives.
14. Don't assume. Some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to reevaluate the direction of your relationship. Remember, great romances are not built on bargaining and ultimatums - in the best marriages the man is the one initiating conversations about marriage. Sometimes allowing a man to lead the direction of a relationship is in-line with your desires. Try it, you'll like it.
15. Remember that romance runs both ways. If you want to be respected and treated as an equal, do the same for him. Be romantic. Make him want to be in this relationship. Don't be a cheapskate. Men often enjoy romance too; pretending otherwise will only drive him away.
16. Remember that some men are perfectly willing to date women they really like but don't see as "marriage material." If, after six months to a year, you still haven't heard him refer to his future plans for marriage or family (with or without you) you may need to ask, "What qualities do you look for in someone you see yourself committing to?" If he mentions qualities he's complimented you on, take it as a good sign. If his compliments are largely related to sex, it probably is not.
17. If you feel the need to have a serious talk, reconsider the approach. Instead of coming at him with a serious tone (which will bring up his innate fear of pressure for commitment), be upbeat and positive. "I really love spending time with you. I really feel happy around you. But I just want to double check and see if we're on the same page. While I know it is too soon for us to worry about it, I do want to get married in the future and want to make sure I'm dating someone who has the same values as me. As we get to know each other better and better, are you beginning to see me as someone you could possibly see that happening with?"
18. Convey unconditional love. A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and appreciation for one another. Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we experience.
19. Set goals. Marriage itself only works when you're moving forward, so it's good practice to start now. Generally speaking, men like women who know who they are and where they're going, even if some of the goals need to be changed a bit down the road.

TIPS

• A comfort with, and affinity towards men is non-negotiable. No man will commit to spending the rest of his life with a "man hater"... nor should he.
• If you disrespect a man by openly flirting with other men his presence, don't expect a ring.
• If he is not showing a desire to marry after several months or longer, he may never want to marry you. You don't want a man to "settle" for you; your partner should see you as his first choice or something is wrong.
• Know what you are looking for in a man. Learn what personally attracts you to others to help find a better match. Be honest about communicating these preferences, but do so in subtle, caring manner.
• Most men want a feminine woman. Interestingly, women who fit this description are more likely to attract masculine men.
• Ironically, women who give men an incentive to marry them may end up moving him in the opposite direction.
• It's certainly important to maintain who you are. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Whatever attracted him to you, be sure to maintain it. It is well-documented that men appreciate women who are beautiful, cute, and/or sexy in their eyes. If you disregard this fact, don't expect your man to view you as the "most beautiful woman in the world".
• Visualize being the woman who a man remembers fondly. Capitalize on your positive unique qualities, talents, or interests
• As author Sarah Ban Breathnach said, "If you wait for the best, you will very often get it." Expect good things to happen. Create a mission statement - and be specific - defining precisely what it is you want in a man. Revisit and revise this statement from time to time. Prepare yourself mentally to meet and marry the man of your dreams.
• Show some confidence-women who have high self-esteem, are comfortable and happy with themselves, are irresistible to men. Smile, show off your love for him and yourself by showing how happy your relationship makes you!
• Always, always, always keep trying new things on multiple fronts. Whether it's new food, a new sport, or a new travel destination, this will keep life exciting, and you interested in your own life. Both men and women become depressed when they feel they know exactly what to expect out of the rest of their lives.
• Be positive, fearless, and enjoy your life! If you think you need him to make life more fulfilling, then you need to focus on you for a while and learn how to be whole without him. A man won't fill any void.

WARNINGS

1. Women whom men eventually leave might exhibit the following traits:

• Complaining. It’s not good to be negative. After a while this is like listening to a bad disco record over and over. Believe it.
• Thinking men are all about sex. Giving it out early and often will not necessarily keep a man. Hint: How soon first sex happens, in and of itself, has little to do with how long a relationship lasts.
• Focused on physical appearance. Being cute is not enough to land a well-rounded guy forever. If you get a guy to commit to you based on looks alone, stay tuned for a miserable life together.
• Taking no risks. They worry about everything and don’t have the guts to go for what they want.
• Having general problems. OK, someone else in your past has nothing to do with your new guy. You must enjoy being a woman and be attracted to what makes men male.

2. Jealousy. Unfortunately, jealous people may also cheat on their partners. Studies say that when people criticize others, listeners tend to consign the traits criticized to the speaker him/herself. Are you a walking, self-fulfilling prophecy?

3. Vanity: No guy likes a wife who goes around thinking she's better than everyone around her. Positive Self-esteem-Good. Vanity-Bad.

4. Don't be controlling. If you are a controlling woman, you are not showing him the respect he may need to feel good about himself.

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STEPS

1. Meet and talk to them. Share thoughts about many things, and listen to see how they react and appear.
2. Find out if you both enjoy the same or similar activities, and discuss your thoughts about them.
3. Sense the physical as well as the mental connection between you. Listen to each other, and hold hands when walking in the mall, or the store, or in the park. If you feel that you really connect without any effort, then you have found your soulmate.
4. Remember, a true soulmate can sense your pain before you do, they can sense your thoughts, feelings, and seem to be a part of you, and you have to wonder, how you ever faced each day without them.

TIPS

• Do not confuse physical chemistry between both of you, as being a soulmate. While one can be the other, the chances are if you only feel a physical attraction, and no mental connection, they are not soulmates.
• Finding a true soulmate does not happen all the time. The connection is so special and so endearing, that you will know when it does.
• Don't look for qualities in a soulmate that will 'complete' you. No one else should be able to complete you, you are you by yourself. What they do instead is add to your life, and make it richer and fuller, more than anything else.
• When you find your soulmate, try not to freak out. Its supposed to be!

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Guys! If you have ever fallen in love, then you know that you can feel 'happy' or 'miserable'. If you don't take the chance then you will never know how a loving feeling feels.

1. Love can make you happy, or it can cause you pain. Loving a girl that loves you back is the goal of every relationship.
2. Decide if the girl really feels the same as you do, before you go all out, and become too emotionally invested.
3. Build the relationship first. Some girls do not like a person to be too overpowering, or too 'giving'. They might just take advantage of you, and then break up with you. You might also overwhelm someone and that will scare them off and burn out the relationship.
4. Get to know each other, talk and laugh, and share stories about family, pets, books, and movies you enjoy. It is always better to fall in love with someone who is also your best friend.
5. Enjoy each other, and date, and if, in time, you fall out of love with her, or she with you, accept it. There is really nothing you can do to change it. Enjoy the moment, and then go on to the future.

TIPS

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  If you really love that girl, try to get her back. Do not beg, just talk to her, and see if there is a chance of getting together again. If she says no, then accept it and go on.
• Do not let the circumstances from a past love make you fearful of loving someone new.
• Truly, there are 2 forms of "love." A strong, long-lasting one and a short, but initially just as strong love. Before you make the decision that you really do love this person, give it some time and a lot of thought.
• Understand that with love comes a chance of getting hurt, but you will know if it is worth it by how you feel. No one ever forgets their first love, but they also can't wait.

Warnings

• Girls/guys might be playing games with you. Some enjoy making a guy love them, so that they can break up with them. Be aware of this. Listen with your ears, and not your heart.
• If you sense that she is not being truthful, then accept your feelings. Get out and meet someone else. But don't "just" do it. What if you're wrong? Be sure.

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Love is not about giving or receiving gifts but about sharing each other’s feelings and letting each other know how much you really care. You need to be romantic, creative, and unique. The best way to show someone you really care is by words and how your actions make them feel special. You need to say something coming from the heart and show them from your soul. Love them for who they are and not for who you are.

Steps

1.Think about all the great moments that you have shared with that person for inspiration. If you think you won't remember, write it down or even better, make it into a poem.

2.Try to think of words that can describe what your feelings towards him/her are. The happiness you feel when you are around him/her and the necessity you have to being with him/her.

3.Find a place where you'll be comfortable and alone.

4.Finally, just say it. Don't try to think of the perfect time to say it because sometimes it will never come out, if you become too nervous. If you didn't prepare anything to say, just speak your heart out.

Tips

• Do not stress about it. They are your feelings; you just need to learn how to express them.
• You don't need to be at a fancy place to tell him/her that you love them. Just pick somewhere where you could be alone.
• If you want to be romantic, go somewhere special. For example; you can go where you both met, where you first kissed each other or just somewhere with a nice view or a place that is special to both of you.
• Don't forget to say "I love you," and if you really mean it, say it a lot because that person will never get tired of hearing it.

Warnings

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  To truly love is to give and expect nothing in return. This makes it a giving - giving relationship when both think this way.
• Do not be afraid to give and show your love, understand and respect each other's feelings and emotions. Remember our hearts are fragile and feel everything.
• Don't end it if they don't say it back. Nothing says both parties fall in love at the same time, continue to love them and when it's right for them, they'll say it back.
• Tell them how much you want to be with them and spend as time with them as you can. They will appreciate that you are showing them your love and not just saying it.
• If the girl/guy does not love you back, there is a chance she/he will freak out. Proceed cautiously and slowly

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